She’s obsessed with finding a new relationship, she’s on dating apps all the time and ditches us at the last minute for men
Shahir: This one is so difficult. I’m tempted to say end it, because what is this guy saying? You’re about to get married. Keep your comments to yourself. And if you’re about to dedicate your life to someone, why do a few extra pounds matter? I don’t think this guy is ready to get married. But if you are at that stage, you obviously need to have a discussion about what marriage means to you both before you make any drastic decisions. The outcome of that conversation might give you some clarity, so try and MEND IT before breaking off the engagement.
Andrea: I’m leaning toward MEND IT. Does he always talk about your weight? Then there’s a bigger issue. But with a big event coming up, sometimes us ladies tell our boyfriends our weight loss goals, and ask them to tell us to say no to that extra piece of cake for extra motivation. I personally want a partner who knows how to tactfully tell me that I need to start watching my weight. You have to choose the right time and place, but if you choose the wrong time when she’s in the middle of the dress shop, you picked the worst time.
In life, not everyone is going to love you, and that’s ok
My long-time friend got divorced last year after a twenty-year marriage. Since then she’s morphed into a different person. I’m frustrated, should I try to mend this friendship?
Shahir: MEND IT. Obviously something dramatic happened in her life. It makes sense that she’s acting a little out of sorts because she is out of sorts. Have a heart to heart. Say, “Hey, I know you’re trying to find a mate, that’s cool, but we need to be more respectful with our time.” She’ll figure it out eventually. Continue reading